26 11 / 2011
Get A Girlfriend
I just came out of my first “official” relationship barely a week ago. I’ll be completely honest and say I have next to no experience in relationships with the opposite gender. I am naturally confident in general, but for I degrade into a complete mess when things I care about are actually on stake. Which is also one of the reasons why we broke up.
Now, I may not have much life experience, but from what little I do I’d like think that I learn fast. In all fairness however, I’ve had bowel movements longer than my first relationship, so this learned information can be inaccurate at times, if not completely wrong, but here’s what I gleaned.
1) Girls should not be a priority in your life, rather they are there to enhance it.
The girl should never be your number one priority in your life. You should always have a hobby, a passion, a dream; This is what drives you forward. Now I should probably clear up the phrasing. I’m not saying you shouldn’t value the girl or treat her right. What I am saying however is that you should not spend all your time chasing her around. You are a man, act like one. Do not treat your girlfriend like the end all solution. Simply having a girlfriend is not what should make you happy; get everything in your life sorted out, become a better person and the women will naturally follow.
2) Communication is what starts the relationship, communication can also be what ends it.
If one or both of the people in the relationship are boxing all their problems and emotions away, the relationship simply cannot work. Eventually the problems are going to build up, and the whole house of cards come tumbling down. Communication is absolutely imperative in relationship from both sides.
3) As sappy as it sounds, just be yourself.
Here’s where it can get a bit complicated. An interesting question is, what exactly is “yourself”? I will save this for another post, because it’s quite lengthy.
